Please help me. How would you approach this friendship situation? Ive been friends with her since Jr. High.?
Topic: Please help me. How would you approach this friendship situation? Ive been friends with her since Jr. High.?
June 16, 2019 / By Asceline Question:
We've been friends for 13+ yrs. We have fun and talk regularly.
But over the whole friendship I feel like I am always there for her. Im always available for her to talk to, I buy her presents once in awhile to cheer her up.....Ive paid for her nursing test when she was broke and bought her dieting food. I dont expect her to pay me back, but all I want is a true, and good friend. And I dont think she has been a friend to me if she can so easily flake on me
Last week she was being real shady to me.
Making plans for Memorial day with me --> when I called to confirm 4 days before, she avoided my calls and only text messaged me (never answering my question) and then tells me she was sick for 3 days. I remembered all those times I asked her to come to family events and my birthday!!! and how she "never" came
I realized then that she has 95% of the time always flaked on me. I never ask for anything, but all I ask is that she would atleast treat me decently after all Ive done for her. Atleast treat me as a real friend would
Ive talked to her about this before. And all she has said was "oh sorry I guess I dont realize things til the end" and then she went again last month and flaked again. And now she flaked this weekend
Should I talk to her about this for the 5th time over the past 13+ yrs or just forget her????
What do I do
Best Answers: Please help me. How would you approach this friendship situation? Ive been friends with her since Jr. High.?
Zeke | 7 days ago
Your friend knows on which side her bread is buttered!! She TOOK your gifts, money and support with no problem. Giving back seems to be her issue.
I am sure you do not want to here this,however, if you have been putting up with this behavior since junior hi than obviously she meets some need in you. I suggest you examine your own actions and ask why you have put up with her taking advantage of you for so long.
After you have figured out what the problem is in you then you can approach her with some choices. For now, back away. Don't call no matter how lonely you are. If you have other friends call them in advance and make solid plans. If she calls, and I doubt she will unless she needs something from you, tell her you are busy. When you have figured out what your problem is then call her and lay no blame at her feet. Simply tell her the truth and let her talk.
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Originally Answered: HELP!!! I need friendship advice!!?
see all i would like to tell u is firstly "be yourself" whether ur thin or fat but u be yourself. yes girls of ur age should be thin to look great n wear all kinds of clothes n the best way is to talk to ur mum n have a good diet food n even hockey will help cause u run n sweat in that game. n wat ever u do please concentrate. believe in yourself n u will one day win the world. man ur still so small u have entire life to live n earn so many good things
Well, what sounds better to YOU..?
If she keeps acting like this... tell her that you don't want to be treated like that.. and realize that she's NOT a real friend. You should probably talk to her about this, and if shes a real, true friend, she'll realize that she's been acting rude and not like a good friend to you, and you'll be good.
Mainly what i'm trying to get at is, that, if you guys talk and work at this... Things should work out however they were "meant" to.
Good Luck x
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Wow... your in the same situation sorta as me.
I Have a friend who recently got her own cd. we were friends for 10+ years and I Help her with things and give give give and i get nothing back. when i see her in school the most she says now is hi. she thinks shes better then me. after all the support i gave and phone calls and money and just helping her when she needed me most... all i want is alittle support back.
So She Changed and i thought if she is moving on... maybe i should too.
i mean me and her are still friends... just not close friends like we use to be. i think thats the best thing for me... i dont know about you. but honestly id talk to her about it like i did wih my friend. sometimes it works... :) good luck
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Dont do any thing nice for any more and if she stays friends with you shes a friend if she falls out with you istead of understanding why your doing it then she is not a real friend and you should flake out of the frieneship
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Originally Answered: Girl friendship rules!!?
Never ever eat ic cream without whipped cream & a cherry xD
Always dump the guy for the bestie<3
You must pull an all nighter at a sleepover to make your friendship official
Cute idea and good luck!! :)