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Why does my boyfriend keep asking/suggesting this?

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April 24, 2019 / By Annita
Question: I have a long distance boyfriend, who the last time I went to visit was this past July. One of the first things he said to me when I got there and we were driving back to his house, was "we should go running". I didn't even bother to respond because it kinda stung me. I didn't really respond or talk to him much after that. Now today he suggested I should run or exercise because I have had some pent up anger that I wrongly took out on him last night. I told him he must think I am fat, and then he said "I love your curves". I am 5'4 and I weigh 165lbs. We;re not even talking obese here. Plus, I have PCOS. it's made it hard for me to maintain my weight at a healthier range for many years now. And it's very difficult to try to have a healthy diet also because I am a college student, I make $400 a month, I can't afford any good food. Mostly I eat junk because it's cheaper. Exercising alone isnt going to help me much with my condition. Wtf? Beery, how incredibly rude of you. Verging on obese? Are you joking me? Not hardly. You obviously have no understanding of PCOS. Almost all women who have PCOS, WILL NOT/CAN NOT lose ANY weight even on a diet. You can go and Google that, maybe you will learn something. Almost all women with it, have to be medicated by a physician in order to balance their hormones and help them maintain a healthier range of weight. It's hardly anything to do with food itself, or lack of exercise, and more to do with a major imbalance in my hormones. Couple it with a very slow metabolism, which all of this I can thank my genes for. Eat less.. so you are suggesting I starve myself? I eat less calories than my body is even required for a daily basis. I often have to SKIP meals, especially breakfast and almost always lunch time, because I don't even have enough food to eat in the first place. A lot of days, I eat one meal called DINNER. And it's often mac and cheese or a peanut butter and jelly (cont.) Next time, go learn something before you make a complete idiot of yourself, DIDDUMS. Besides, my weight and my PCOS (something I was predisposed to have; it is hereditary, and I had little control over whether I got it or not) is mostly not controllable. My boyfriend being an asshole to me about it IS controllable.
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Yahweh Yahweh | 5 days ago
I seriously doubt he's calling you fat or asking you to lose weight. Running is a good way to relieve stress and/or anger. Maybe he just wants you to be a happier person therefor he suggest running. And I totally know where you are coming from! IS EFFING EXPENSIVE. :( I too wish healthier foods could be cheaper
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Yahweh Originally Answered: My father 55 years old,has 3 blocks in his heart doctors are suggesting him for bipass surgery?
My dear, yours father is 55, and I am 61, and has undergone Bypass surgery on 2nd October, 2006. My LAD was totally occluded, and two arteries were having stenosis in them. CABG (Coronary Arteries bypass grafting) or Bypass surgery went smoothly here in Pakistan. Now I am taking a walk of 5 kms comfortably and am driving car, climbing stairs. So ask yours father, that nothing to worry. The risk is only 1%, and benefits are a normal healthy life. Below is teh description of Bypass surgery. Hope it will help yours family in reducing teh tension associated with this surgery. Plz dont hestitate to contact me if you and yours family need further information on this topic. [email protected] ABOUT CORONARY BYPASS The goal of coronary artery bypass graft surgery (CABG) is not to repair or remove any blocked arteries, but to detour blood around a blockage in a coronary artery and reestablish the flow of oxygen-rich blood to the heart. To create the detour, a segment of a blood vessel is taken from another part of the body. The segment may be taken from one of the following: •The saphenous vein from the leg is commonly used. •The internal mammary artery from the chest is usually preferred for key artery branches because it tends to remain open longer. Some call it the internal thoracic artery. •The radial artery from the arm and sometimes arteries from the stomach (gastroepiploic artery) may also be used as bypass grafts. Depending on which blood vessel is used, one end is either sewn to the aorta or may remain connected to the larger artery where it originated. The other end is attached (grafted) beyond the blockage in the coronary artery. As a result, blood can flow around the blocked area, increasing the supply of oxygen and nutrients to the heart muscle. Bypass surgery may be recommended for individuals with a history of any of the following: •Narrowing in several coronary artery branches (common in people with diabetes) •Severe narrowing in the left main coronary artery •Blockage in the coronary artery or another condition that may not or has not responded to other treatments (e.g., angioplasty) •Severe angina Bypass surgery carries some risks, including a less than 5 percent chance of heart damage and a less than 2 percent chance of death. Studies show that women have a slightly higher risk during or immediately after bypass surgery. This may relate to the fact that women who undergo the surgery are generally older and in poorer health, and their smaller body size makes the surgery technically more difficult. However, the overall risks are relatively low when compared to the fact that many of these bypass operations significantly lengthen and improve the quality of the patient’s life. In some cases, the grafted arteries may also become blocked and require a second bypass surgery. Second bypass has slightly higher risks than the initial surgery, because patients are older and other, less optimal blood vessels must be used for the new grafts. However, bypassed arteries can remain functioning for many years, especially when the patient makes diet and exercise adjustments for cardiac health. Therefore, bypass surgery remains a popular choice for physicians treating severe coronary artery disease. During coronary bypass surgery For several weeks before bypass surgery, patients who smoke will be advised to stop smoking. Many surgeons also advise their patients to stop taking aspirin to minimize the risks of excessive bleeding during and immediately after surgery. They will also be asked not to eat or drink anything after midnight before surgery. Certain medications, especially those that affect blood clotting, may be reduced or stopped. Patients should discuss their medication schedules with their physician. The patient is usually admitted the morning of surgery. A few days before surgery, the patient undergoes a number of tests, which include an x-ray, blood tests, urinalysis and an electrocardiogram (EKG). The patient’s blood is typed and cross–matched with units of donor blood, according to the surgeon’s wishes. Blood transfusions may not be needed. Patients should know, however, that blood banks test blood to screen donor blood for most major diseases, such as hepatitis or AIDS. The patient will be given specific pre-operative medications and is then prepared for surgery. The chest, groin and leg areas are shaved, and a bacteria-killing (bactericidal) solution is applied to the operative site and surrounding area. The patient is then sedated with medication given through an intravenous (I.V.) line in the arm or hand. As soon as the patient is asleep, an anesthetic inhalation gas (general anesthesia) is continuously administered through an endotracheal tube (breathing tube) and constantly monitored by the anesthesiologist. After the patient is asleep, a device called a Swan-Ganz catheter is often inserted through a needle stick into the jugular vein (in the neck) and threaded to the pulmonary artery (which goes from the heart to the lungs). The catheter is used to measure heart function, measure the pressures in both the heart and lungs, and to give any necessary medications. The endotracheal tube, which was inserted into the mouth and down the windpipe (trachea), is used to maintain an airway. A urinary catheter is also inserted and connected to a collection bag to measure the patient’s urine output. An incision is then made in the chest, through the breastbone (sternum), and the two halves of the breastbone are divided (median sternotomy). A medical device called a retractor is used to pull back the two halves of the breastbone to give the surgeon plenty of room to work. The ribs are not divided, reducing discomfort during recovery. The functions of the heart, including blood flow and oxygenation, are rerouted through a heart-lung machine. While the machine takes care of the heart’s functions, the heartbeat can be carefully stopped by administering a cardioplegic solution. In total, the heart will remain stopped for about 30 to 90 minutes during the four to five hours (on average) of surgery. Before the heart is stopped, the blood vessel(s) to be used as grafts are removed from their source location. If they are located in the chest, one end of the blood vessel(s) may remain connected to the larger artery it originated from, or it will be sewn to the aorta, depending on which blood vessel is used for the graft. The other end is sewn into place below the blockage in the coronary artery. After the graft(s) are completed, and blood is successfully flowing around the blockage, the heart is restarted and the patient is removed from the heart-lung machine. Finally, when normal blood flow and heartbeat are re-established, the surgical site is carefully closed layer by layer. The sternum is usually closed with wire and the surface incision is closed with staples or sutures, depending on the surgeon’s preference. Although coronary bypass is a relatively safe surgery with an extensive history in patients, researchers are still looking for ways to improve it. For instance, studies are underway to investigate new ways of grafting blood vessels. One method involves a “sewing” device consisting of two sets of hooks. One set holds the graft; the other makes the attachment to the aorta. In the small group of individuals having undergone the procedure, the graft was connected in less than two minutes (versus up to seven minutes with current methods). Researchers also noted a better quality of connection. Moreover, it resulted in less time required on the heart-lung machine. Another technique, still in the animal testing stages, involves connecting grafts with an adhesive. Researchers think that either procedure may someday find use in minimally invasive bypass surgery and may make the heart-lung machine unnecessary in standard coronary bypass surgery.

Sheldon Sheldon
You got mad because he suggested you take a run with him? Trust me, your boyfriend isn't the one with the problem. Does PCOS cause the food you eat to magically affect your body so that your calories can't be burned off by exercise? No. Weight is purely a factor of calories in vs. calories burned. Stop making excuses that enable you to refuse exercise and defend being overweight. It's difficult for everyone to keep weight off - that's why we need to be disciplined enough to exercise when we need to. Your BMI is overweight and verging on obesity. When your boyfriend suggests taking a run, your response should be positive. And you eat junk because it's cheaper? Diddums! Eat less of it then! You may not be obese now, but with your attitude you will be obese in a few years.
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Nogah Nogah
Tell him this but if he already knows and is suggesting you to exercise, then I suggest you tell him to come clean about his intensions and demand some respect and if he is going to act like that, then I am sorry but you guys need a break!!! You shouldn't be with a guy that makes you feel down about yourself and start dating a guy that makes you feel good about yourself!! Good luck
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Kris Kris
Next time he suggests running, suggest to him he should maybe find a girlfriend who enjoys running.
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Kris Originally Answered: My boyfriend left me because im fat?
Suicide will stop your metabolism altogether = no weight loss. Nobody can fix this but you. The first thing to do - it's easy, it really is - is to start drinking a glass of water about ten minutes before you eat. That will make you feel fuller, and eat less. Next, get rid of nearly all of your indulgence foods. Keep one or two things around - and I mean, one or two candy bars or one or two cookies, not one or two bags or boxes - and ration them. Start cooking for yourself instead of eating prepared foods. You'll be amazed what a difference it makes to eat real food instead of the salt/sugar/grease combos that come in most prepared foods Start getting a little exercise. Start slow and build up. Even if all you do is walk in place for five minutes, if you do that every day it'll start to build your leg muscles and muscles burn more calories than fat. Get some exercise videos out of the library -- low or no-impact, to start. If you don't like exercising, get some cheerful music and just dance for ten minutes. And stop some things: stop drinking diet pop. It's full of salt, which is going to keep the weight on, and aspartame isn't good for you anyway. Switch to soda water and add a little fruit juice for flavor. Stop making excuses. "I'm an emotional eater." Well, you're also an adult human being and you can make choices. You can choose to have a hot cup of tea with stevia or whatever instead of something greasy. STOP equating your value with the attention you get from men. Until you like yourself, nobody else is going to like you. You've let yourself get into a pit of self-pity and until you haul yourself out, most people won't enjoy your company. You have to make a decision to improve your life. Nobody can do it for you. So, yes, you lost the baby... if the soul is immortal, maybe the child will come back when you've improved your life. Being laid off with a small child would be a worse pickle than the one you're in.

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