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What to do about an out of control child?

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June 25, 2019 / By Jorja
Question: I am the single mom of an out of control child. He has seen shrinks about being possibly ADHD or Bi polar (runs in dad's family). Meds just make him worse. I have lost all control of this 12 year old boy. He is violent and mean. I sometimes wonder if I should get help from Department of Children and families. How much does that cost? What would they do? I do not know what to do anymore. I have tried taking everything away. I've tried spankings. It gets worse and worse all the time and I'm loosing my own sanity from it.
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Georgiana Georgiana | 10 days ago
My heart go's out to you. There is no easy answer. What is your gut feeling? Do you think he is ADHD? Keep seeking help from the medical community and try different drugs. It could be his diet. Too much sugar or processed foods? Your his mom, has he always been like this or has it just started. I would really be aggressive about getting this problem solved because the poor kid is reaching puberty and soon you wont be able to discipline or control him. go see a different doctor and keep going until you get the right one. Talk to his teachers and principal. If there is no father or male role model in his life contact big brothers and see if you can get him one. I am a single mom too and my youngest has given me some grief...he is eleven now. I got him couciling through the school but i live in Canada, so I dont know what is available to you. Good luck and keep your chin up....you are doing a great job......:)
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Georgiana Originally Answered: What to do about an out of control child?
My heart go's out to you. There is no easy answer. What is your gut feeling? Do you think he is ADHD? Keep seeking help from the medical community and try different drugs. It could be his diet. Too much sugar or processed foods? Your his mom, has he always been like this or has it just started. I would really be aggressive about getting this problem solved because the poor kid is reaching puberty and soon you wont be able to discipline or control him. go see a different doctor and keep going until you get the right one. Talk to his teachers and principal. If there is no father or male role model in his life contact big brothers and see if you can get him one. I am a single mom too and my youngest has given me some grief...he is eleven now. I got him couciling through the school but i live in Canada, so I dont know what is available to you. Good luck and keep your chin up....you are doing a great job......:)

Delora Delora
He could have mental disorders that is a possible problem, however if you are struggling with this issue it is time for correction. I would call the family doctor and have him checked out for possible mental disorders. I would also consider calling a psychotheropist, they could be quite expensive but diagnosing the problem professionally might be your only solution. I might suggest boot camp. It seems to work wonders on the talk shows, despite the fact that some of them are made up. The best solution is seek professionals to deal with this problem. He could have some emotional problems and is venting them through rage, and might need to see a counselor of some kind. There are free ones out there.
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Cadence Cadence
My best friend is semi bi polar and he is better with activty. In high school he did a weight class an loved it. does he play any sports or can he do something in the back yard like a tranpoline or something. just make sure he is safe. Also does it get worse when he hasn't eaten? That happens to my bff. Does he have a tv in his room? Maybe when he is having a behaiver send him to his room and you go do something in a different room so he can calm down. is he depressed? depression can come out in anger to. (depression is not all to blaime) IF this helps and i understand your question right email me.
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Allycia Allycia
I'm surprised meds aren't working. Have you tried various brands? Sometimes the key is finding the right one. There are different types of ADHD meds... some are stimulants but there are also ones that work in similar ways that antidepressants work. Maybe you could talk to your doctors about different options. Therapy might help him as well, but that would depend on if he could handle a therapy situation. I've also heard anecdotal stories about children such as yours actually have behavior problems do to diet problems (perhaps they are allergic to something or their body is processing something oddly). You could talk about this with a naturopathic doctor (mine helped my health issue when regular doctors couldn't). I really recommend them in conjunction with medical doctor care. As for Department of Children and Families why not call and ask them about what they could do for you? I'm sure they would not charge you a fee for looking into options they could provide.
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Uzzia Uzzia
Wow...so my brother was just like this. He was diagnosed with ADD and he used to be very aggressive like really him and i would fight on a daily basis and when i mean fight i mean punching and kicking each other like real fighting. He pulled knives out on me and my older brother and would always get very angry and punch holes in the walls. He got kicked out of high school and was always getting detentions and all that. But my mom would always try to get him to calm down and all that (she was a single mother too) and she would fight with him but always made it clear that his behavior wouldn't be tolerated. He was almost kicked out like a dozen times but she always gave in and was there when he really needed her. Now he is 21 yrs old and calm and mellow he hasn't fought with someone in a long time and has really matured..give it time...if he is only 12 it will get a bit worse don't get me wrong but all hope is not lost...
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Rolland Rolland
OH YEAH, that's a REAL solution, solving violence with violence (LOADED WITH SARCASM, by the way) (you hitting him is the violence I am talking about) no wonder he's acting out, he's a KID! Kids act out you just need to find a calm medium, sit down with him, explain to him you don't like the misbehavior, try to work out something constructive he can try when he's angry, playing basketball, banging on some drums, karate, you have to teach him how to channel his anger.
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Miles Miles
I'm sorry you're going through this; I would suggest seeing a child behaviorist that can recommend some options for you.
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